- Start with Prayer
- Invite God’s presence
- Ask the Holy Spirit to lead
- Let Them Speak First
- Ask: “What’s on your heart?”
- Do not interrupt, just listen.
- Use verbal followings (1 hear you, Go on)
- Ask claritying questions.
- Avoid projecting your own thoughts
- Listen Biblically While They Talk
- Think of Scriptures that apply.
- Trust the Spirit to bring verses to mind
- Note references if needed.
- Turn the Conversation Toward God
- Ask “Where do you see God in this?”
- Ask: “What role does the Bible play here?”
- Ask: “Have you prayed about this yet?”
- Share Scripture with Permission
- Ask: “Can share a couple verses with you?”
- Read the Bible with them.
- Show how it applies directly.
- Apply Scripture to Life
- Connect truth to thoughts, actions, and decisions
- Guide toward repentance if needed.
- Encourage obedience and faith.
- Help form a practical plan forward.
- Gain Agreement on God’s Plan
- Ask: “Do you agree this is what God’s Word says?”
- Confirm unity around the Bible, not opinion.
- Close in Prayer
- Pray specifically for wisdom, strength, comfort, obedience, peace.
- Encourage them to keep praying and reading.
- Key Reminders
- Confidentiality: Keep what is shared private unless safety is at risk.
- Humility: You are a brother pointing them to Christ, the true Counselor.
- Folow-Up: Checkin later. Accountability shows love.
